Black History Month

Moving Beyond Reflection

Welcome to Black History Month. Despite it beginning in the shortest month of the year, many Black Americans might also agree that it feels like the least celebrated. As I reflect on my years in grade school, high school, and even now as an adult, I can barely remember what happened during this month. I recall posters, the occasional talks about civil rights, and the repeated mentions of the same prominent Black leaders.

I asked my children what their Black History Month looked like in school. Despite the gaps in their years, their stories and experiences mirrored mine: emptiness, vague mentions of Black leaders, and, in the blink of an eye, the hallways were filled with hearts, and everyone was talking about Valentine's Day. The truth was that there were no flags, no food, no festive decorations—and the sad part is that not much has changed over time.

After hearing their responses and reflecting on my own experiences, I was stuck. How was I going to write this post? What did I have to say?

As I sat and thought about what to write, my son asked me, “Why am I writing about this topic?” I told him it was because I felt that Black History Month wasn’t celebrated like other occasions; that it was often overshadowed by Valentine’s Day, and I felt that this was an important topic to discuss.

Then he said something that would change the direction of this post, though I didn’t know it at the time. He asked me, "Whose fault is that?"

Wait… what?

Was it my fault my children didn’t celebrate the month? It was true—we didn’t do anything in my household. I didn’t grow up doing anything for this month either, except celebrating Valentine’s Day and the two birthdays that fall in this month.

His question made me pause and reflect. What had I passed down to my kids… I realized not much; my own knowledge of our history is fragmented—bits and pieces I’d gathered from my grandmother but never fully explored. How could I educate him about a past I knew so little about?

Truthfully, he challenged me. He asked why I hadn’t taken the steps to learn more, and I admitted I’d thought about it but never followed through. I didn't have a valid reason for not asking more questions or taking the steps to discover our history.

So, he suggested that in 2025, I leap. Order the kit. Take the ancestry tests. Do the research. Find out where we come from.

The Importance of Taking Action

Taking action to uncover our roots is more than a personal journey; it’s a step toward understanding who we are and where we belong. For my family, the decision to order the ancestry kit wasn’t just about curiosity—it was about reclaiming a history that often feels fragmented and distant.

In doing so, I realized the power of knowledge. When we explore our origins, we’re not only learning about the past but also shaping the narrative we pass down to future generations. This knowledge builds pride, resilience, and a deeper connection to our identity.

Taking the test is just one step; we need to ask questions, read books, engage in conversations, and seek out untold stories. It’s about sharing what we learn, not only with our children but with our communities. Celebrating Black History means making the deliberate choice to educate ourselves and others, ensuring that our culture and contributions are honored year-round—not just for 28 days.

What Does Black History Month Look Like in Your Life?

Is it vibrant and filled with traditions, or does it pass by like any other month? Take a moment to reflect on your own experiences and what this month means to you.

If it feels overlooked or under-celebrated, ask yourself why.

What stories have you learned about your family’s history? Have you ever sought to discover more?

Whether you know your origins or feel like you’re still searching, this month is an opportunity to embrace that journey.

Imagine what it would feel like to uncover a story about your ancestors—a story of triumph, resilience, or innovation. Picture sharing that story with your children, friends, or community. What impact could that knowledge have on you and those around you?

I encourage you to think about how you can celebrate Black History Month. Whether it’s attending a local event, reading a book by a Black author, or learning about your own history, there’s no wrong way to honor this time.

A New Tradition for 2025

Inspired by my son's simple yet thought-provoking question—"Whose fault is it?"—I found myself looking beyond the moment and into my own family's history. His question challenged me to explore where we came from, the stories that shaped us, and the experiences that were passed down from one generation to the next.

The journey my family and I are taking isn't just about discovering names, dates, or places. It's about gaining a deeper understanding of who we are, where our values and traditions began, and how our past continues to influence our present. In doing so, I hope we'll also uncover new possibilities for the future.

This year, instead of simply looking back to celebrate the past, I'm choosing to look back with purpose—to better understand who I am by discovering where it all began. Sometimes, the path forward starts by taking a step back.

Your Turn: A Call to Action

As we step into Black History Month, let’s make a collective commitment to celebrate, learn, and take action. Let this month be more than a moment—it should be a movement toward understanding and honoring the legacy of those who came before us.

I challenge you to take one small step toward exploring your history. Whether that’s ordering an ancestry kit, visiting a museum, or simply sitting down with a loved one to ask questions about your family’s past, because every action matters.

Let’s extend this celebration beyond February. Share what you’ve learned. Educate others, create traditions, ensure that Black History is a constant presence in your home, your school, and your community.

I’d love to hear from you—what does Black History Month look like in your home or community? Share your thoughts in the comments or on social media. Let’s keep this conversation going.

Together, we can ensure that Black History Month isn’t just a fleeting recognition of the past but a foundation for building a brighter, more connected future. Here’s to reclaiming our stories, celebrating our heritage, and inspiring others to do the same.

As always… stay inspired and continue to chase purpose.